Setting Boundaries

    Living in this world can be tough. Most of the time we don't get what we want. People don't always treat us the way we want to be treated. We all have different experiences, we tend to have different personalities. Sometimes you get into a point where you feel like you need to change your perception on someone, specially if that person is constantly giving you uncomfortable feelings, showing signs of dishonesty and throwing empty promises every now and then. 

    If a person keeps giving you a shady behavior, then it's time to ring the alarm. Be vigilant and always trust your instinct. There are a lot of people out there who are wrapped up with their own fantasies, who actually believes in their own lies and lure you away from reality. Some of them may constantly deceive others with illusions just to get an ego stroke. 

    When dishonesty becomes their lifestyle, there is nothing much you can do with it. A bad behavior is a bad behavior. If you think that there is no basis of truth on that  behavior then there's no sense normalizing it. Better spend your energy elsewhere, to people whom you can trust and is worth your time. Don't let somebody walk all over you and take advantage of you. You have limits to what you can put up with.

    How long does it take you to realize that things isn't working for you. If you think that you are already selling yourself short, don't hold on to it. Cut yourself free. Step away from the source of stress. Don't be afraid to press the eject button. You can't sit around and wait for people to change. Transforming another person is not your responsibility. They will change if they want to but not on your own terms.

    Get real, be authentic even if others are not. Stick with your values and live with your own set of rules and boundaries. Love yourself more. And most of  all trust your judgement.

Time for a Change?

    Life is about choices. Everyday we make decisions. Big or small, it directly affects our whole being. Sometimes we struggle with our choices. Why? Because we are afraid of change. We don't want to face the unknown and would rather stay in our own comfort zone, stay in a routine than make changes.

    People stay in unhealthy relationships because they are afraid to live alone. People stick to the jobs they hate because they are afraid of instability.  A lot of people embraced emptiness for years. They survived because they get used to it. Most of us get used to average, to second best.

    But sometimes, you just need to make that change. If things aren't working out the way you think they should be then maybe it's about time to pack your bags and go. If  you feel like the dream you are chasing is not meant for you, then dream another dream. Start climbing another mountain. You have to close and start a new chapter in your life one way or another. Build a life that you really want and what you think you can do well.

    So go forth, decide to make that change, stick with it and finish the race. If you lose then you can always join another race. Get rid of all bad habits and change for the better. And when you make a decision to change, make every day an act of commitment. You  are responsible for your own life and only you can  make that change. 

Cleaning Up the Clutter

    The start of the year is a perfect time to assess our life and come up with good resolutions. This year, I have decided to create a blog not only to express my thoughts but to inspire others. I'll start with nothing but positive vibes. I'll talk about love and life. Anything that makes us feel good about ourselves and how to take control of our  lives.

    Everyday we are always surrounded by negative energy. We are often get consumed by depressing thoughts which put us to downward spiral of negativity.   Our past wounds can hinder our present happiness. We can never be happy if we keep dragging along the pain in the past. Anger and resentment could be damaging to our total well-being. According to Buddha “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else—you are the one who gets burned."  If we carry anger, then we end up getting angry most of the time. If we feel good, then we find plenty of reasons to feel good about. Our perception of events is entirely up to us. We just need to decide whether to feel happy or dwell on sadness.

    Our lives are well too cluttered. . It's about time to clean up our mess, physically, emotionally and mentally and start living happily. We all deserve a blissful life.

    Perhaps this will give me a start on my resolution for the new year. May yours be a truly happy one.